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February 25, 2004
Can I Just be Myself?
Who Would You Like Me to Be Today?
Should I put on a costume today, a disguise, anything that will hide the real me, turn myself into something you would prefer? Shall I dip my toes into the safe waters of being what you want me to be, or can I just be myself.
Knowing me and liking me means keeping ALL of the terrific parts of me for yourself - those which you hold near and dear to your heart, and ignoring or disregarding the small pieces about me that you can't stand. To me, a friend is someone you know everything about but like anyway.
That's how I view friendship. I'm not about attempting to change those I count as friends. You won't hear me criticize you, and if I ever did, you asked me for my opinion, and my two cents is usually spun into something positive and never negative. Keep your spots, I like them exactly the way they are. Don't go changing to try and please me (thank you, Billy Joel.) I don't need or want a robot in my circle of friends; it's not in my nature to associate with folks who will change the way they are because they say or do something I don't like. That's you - and that's why I count you as a friend. The good. The bad. The ugly. If you know someone who is perfect, please point them out to me, as I would really like to see what perfect is.
Here's to liking YOU - for all your quirks, eccentricities, bizarre behavior and unfair demands, as well as your intelligence, talent, grace, personality, sensitivity and your desire to help others. Nevermind your damn good looks (none of my friends are ugly. NONE.)
Thank you. I'm now off my soapbox. Please drive thru.
Cindy
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Why yes you can just be yourself, warts and all.
(You don't have warts, do you?)
Brain matter deposited by: Kat on February 25, 2004 4:26 PM
I see it this way: Being honest is being true to ones self. If someone cannot be true to who they are, then they are lying. The worst person to lie to is in fact, ones self.
Lies breed more lies, which breeds distrust, paranoia, anger, hate and a boatload of other emotions that have the ability to bring the grace closer. Then it's off to the psychologist and whatever he or she feels will try and fix it, whether is be words or pills.
Why lie? It wastes precious time and resources. And the thought of spending life, the one life given to us pretending to be something else is worse than the labels society uses. Words are words and yeah, sometimes they hurt. No pleasure without a little pain. But I have the priviledge of saying, "This is me! What you see is what you get! No facades. Take it or leave it."
It's easier to sleep at night with a clear conscious than trying to sort out a catalogue of lies told...whether to others or ones self.
It's nice to meet you Cynthia.
Brain matter deposited by: Casey on February 25, 2004 5:16 PM
did something happen to spark this? or was it something you just felt like writing?
and, by the way, just for the record, i am your only ugly pal.
heh heh heh....
Brain matter deposited by: mr. helpful on February 25, 2004 9:04 PM
Kat - none that I'm aware of :-)
Casey - nice to meet you too (I'm confused - thought it was 'Kevin' - is that a nickname?)
Greg - I see you're after the dirty details (if there are any.) Let's just say that somethng came up that inspired me to write that.
Brain matter deposited by: Cindy on February 26, 2004 9:32 AM
gawd, hope i haven't done something again. i'm forever putting my foot in it, aren't i ?
i see that mr. casey is here - he said hello to me aswell. sweet :)
Brain matter deposited by: zed on February 26, 2004 10:00 AM
Cynthia -
Kevin is my given name. Casey is a nickname I adopted back in the early ninties. I go by either...whichever you prefer. I toss each around to keep people guessing. :)
I posted a blurb about it on me weblog last night.
I look forward to reading more of your thoughts as I have just about finished your archives...and will be starting on Zoe's this evening. :)
Brain matter deposited by: Casey on February 26, 2004 10:25 AM
Zoe, do you have a guilty conscience? You've not done anything to worry about (the post had nothing to do with you, petunia.)
Casey/Kevin - :-) Good to know! I've not done today's blog reading yet - I'll be reading you soon.
Brain matter deposited by: Cindy on February 26, 2004 10:43 AM